Friday, February 8, 2013

Ode to a good man

I know many men with faults. Most men I know tend to have a habit I cannot praise. But to find no faults in a man is rare and hard. And that is what I found in Thamer Salman. But Thamer passed away 10 hours ago.

Thamer was so good. He was the guy who had it all and could've carried himself very differently but he didn't. He was smart and funny and successful and cultured and curious. He was wonderful.

Thamer is probably the only man I ever knew that was endearingly competitive. He litreally mastered everything he attempted. From fly boarding to DJing. He was a natural polymath.

Thamer was also very kind and generous. When my mother asked me in November last year to help a smart but very poor young highschool graduate to get into college, Thamer arranged for her a full schoarlship and acceptance to January's semester.

We called him wiki because he either knew everything or knew how to get it before anyone else did. He was so good we stopped asking anyone else anything. He answered all our questions.

Intellectually, Thamer was deeply involved in the ongoing events in the Arab world and he longed to contribute. We spoke often of his unique placement as a funder and founder of incubators across the Arab world. He wanted to do something about it.

Last night we stayed up till 6.30am (23 hours ago). We played music, then play station and then we talked. I shared with him some very good news that he'd been pushing me towards for the last few months. He was ecstatic. We then both went to bed. We were the last to wake up today. We all had lunch and then he and a few guys took the buggies out for a final drive before dark. And the rest is history.

Death is always messy. It is the primordial disruptive technology. His death disrupted his life. And what a great life it was.

I know he's in a better place but I miss him all the same. God help us.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss. Good people and good friends are hard to find and impossible to replace. Allah yrhamu wa ysaber ahloh was suhabu.

Saturday, February 09, 2013  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

good people live short- allah yer7mah

Saturday, February 09, 2013  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

As a well spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings happy death.
-Leonardo Da Vinci

Allah yr7amah

Monday, February 11, 2013  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for sharing your story with us. May Allah Grant Him Paradise

Monday, February 11, 2013  
Blogger داهم القحطاني said...

الله يرحم الأخ ثامر ...مثل هالإنسان يفيب فيه الجسد فقط لكن الروح تبقى والأثر يستمر .... تدوينتك أخ مشعل رثاء يتضمن إحتفالا في شخصية تستحق ذلك... رحمه الله وجمعك به في جنان الخلد

Thursday, February 14, 2013  
Blogger Z Wajood said...

I always wished that when i pass away i want hordes of crowd at my funeral prayer...and now when i read people like you and all his near and dear ones write about him with such wish is now my prayer.

Mishaal, may ALLAH give you the patience to bear this loss of a friend and brother.

Friday, February 15, 2013  

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